I just finished reading this book by Sara Eckel called It’s Not You, 27 (Wrong Reasons You’re Single).
It was part of the inspiration for this blog. In my opinion the Author nails it in the book. I could really relate to the book. She talked about people in their mid-thirties and forties who were still single and the absurd reasons people around them (or sometimes themselves) gave for being single. The 27 reasons ranged from being too intimidating to, being too old to you suck (yes, the writing was humorous at times)!
The end of every chapter had some sort of inspiring reason of why these reasons are not true. One message that really struck me was in the last chapter, You Will Spend the Rest of Your Life Alone. The focus of this chapter being “the rest of your life.” Why do we think that our lives start once we get married? My best friend from college got married when she was 21 years old. Does that mean her life started when she walked down the aisle at the church? Does that mean that me, having just turned 36, has yet to start life? What have I been doing over the past 36 years years that is apparently not relevant?
Well if you ask me I think I have been doing a lot. I have done a lot that the majority of people in this world have not done.
So who says my life hasn’t started yet because I am single? Apparently society has made that decision for us. I will admit, saying my life will start once I get married does sort of make sense to me (because that’s what society has drilled in our heads). However, I think it would make more sense to say a new chapter of our lives is starting once we get married. Some people don’t even write this chapter in their life or even want to think about writing it.
So don’t sit around feeling bad for yourself because you think your life hasn’t started yet and everyone else has. It started the day you were born and every day should be accounted for. I’m sure it got really interesting once you turned 18 and were labeled an adult too! When you are feeling down about where you are in your book of life, sit down and make a list of things that you are proud of that you have accomplished. I’m sure once you look at that list, you will see that your life started a long time ago.
It’s Not You, really hit home with me so fair warning, you may hear me talk about it again in the future. 🙂