Ah the holidays….
A time when you should be thankful for family and friends! A Time for celebrating and a time for giving. It’s the time of year when you attend many holiday parties and see people you may not see that often throughout the rest of the year. It’s a time to be happy!
Although the holidays are a time of celebration it can also be a little stressful (and sometimes awkward) for the single guys and gals out there, especially for those older singles (ahem…ME!) . We want to celebrate and have a great time catching up with everyone just as much as you do but there are certain questions/topics you should be very careful talking about. the following is a list I have come up with that I have personally had to deal with at some point in my life:
- The younger family member who just announced he/she is getting married or having a baby! Don’t get me wrong, we WANT to know about family milestones. We WANT to celebrate about those milestones. But we don’t need the “awe, someday your time will come” look. And by all means DON’T say it!!!!
- The “Where’s your boyfriend you brought last year?” question. If they are not here because of other plans, I’m sure the single person will mention it (or at least they should to save everyone from wondering). If he’s not with you, then there is a chance the relationship ended and that is the last thing a single person is going to want to talk about. And you will probably feel a little out-of-place after you ask the question and don’t get the response you thought you would get.
- Go sit under the Christmas tree and let’s watch you open your gifts on Christmas morning. We all love gifts but PLEASE, just because I don’t have my own children to watch open presents under the tree doesn’t mean I have to be the one. I am 36 years old so don’t treat me like a child. Besides, the older I get, sitting on the floor for long periods of time hurts my back! 🙂 I am a grown adult so let me get myself some coffee and we can all open our gifts together on the couch.
P.S. I don’t need an absurd amount of gifts anymore like I got when I was a kid. And my gifts don’t have to be from Santa….I know the truth 🙂
- Questioning the length of time you are home for the holidays. This year Christmas falls on a Friday, so it’s a three-day weekend for me. I will travel to my parent’s house which is two hours away on Christmas Eve after work and stay through Saturday morning. I am so grateful my family is a short drive from me and I can see them almost as often as I want to. However, please understand that I have my own life and responsibilities at home that I need to get to. Just because I don’t have kids to attend to does not make my life less important so please don’t make me feel that way.
- Where/Who is your date for the company holiday party? It is not a requirement to bring a date to your company party if you don’t want to. Sometimes it may be better that way. If you bring a friend (guy or girl) people will question if you two are dating or if you are gay or straight. Really, it’s no one’s business and if you do bring a date, I’m sure you will be introduced. So just don’t ask and save yourself the embarrassment. People can have fun on their own too!
This may seem a little harsh and I truly don’t mean to come across that way, I just want people to understand that this time of year can be a little awkward for people living the single life (who may not want to be).
To the single men and women out there, try not to be so sensitive. Realize that the friends and family who are spending the holidays with you love you and are happy to be celebrating with you (at least I hope so!). If any of these situations come up during parties or other holiday functions don’t freak out. Make a joke out of it, or answer the questions with your head held high! Let everyone know you are doing just fine in your life and that you are happy to be spending the holidays with them!
HAPPY HOLIDAYS EVERYONE!