One of the areas of my life that I decided I wanted to focus on more in 2016 is my spiritual life. I started attending this new Christian based, non-denominational church in my city that I have really connected with. The focus the past few weeks has been moving forward in a positive way and starting the new year off on a positive note. This weeks message focused around friends and the types of friends you should have in your life. The message really hit home with me and I wanted to share it. Whether you are spiritual person or not I think you will find something in this post. This weeks focus was on friends.
Friendship is really important to me. Sometimes I feel like it can be more important to me than a romanic relationship. Whenever I feel betrayed by someone who is important to me it takes me a long time to get over it (I’m working on that!). The sermon that I listened to this week talked about how the people in your life shape the direction that your life goes in whether that be good or bad. Think back to some of the difficult times in your life and who you were hanging out with during that time. Can you link them together? I know I can. Some of the friends that I have had in my past resulted in me making some poor decisions. Please understand I am not putting the blame on the people I surrounded myself around and I am not saying they are bad people. I am just pointing out the correlation between some of my life events and the people I was hanging out with at the time. The pastor focused on three types of friends you want in your life.
3 Types of friends you should have in your life:
- Friends that want to make you a better person – If you are anything like me you are always trying to better yourself. I am constantly setting new goals for myself, reading books to learn about new topics and even writing a blog! I believe that it is important to surround yourself with people who WANT to make you a better person. I want people in my life that will challenge me.
- Friends that will tell you when you are wrong – How many friends do you have that are always complimenting you and telling you how wonderful you are? Well that is great and all but I want a friend that will also tell me when I’m wrong or when I can do better. This sort of goes back to my first type of friend I talked about (friends who will make you a better person). If I’m wrong I want someone to tell me I’m wrong. I want to learn from what they tell me and improve on that.
- Friends that will be there to pick you up – In the sermon I listened to the pastor spoke more about when you are going through a difficult time and you don’t know who else to turn to, you have friends that are praying for you. If you are not a spiritual person this can also mean, that when you are going through a hard time, you have friends that will be there to pick you up or are just thinking of you.
We all have friends that fill different areas of our lives. You may have friends at work, friends at the gym, or friends at school. If you think about it, would these people be your friends if you didn’t know them at work, the gym or school? I like to call these friends situational friends. These are friends I have a relationship with because of my life circumstances. We wouldn’t be friends unless our life situations brought us together. It doesn’t make them less of a friend, it just points out that we have something in common and that’s what our friendship is built around.
We also may have friends that do not fall under the three categories I listed. That is OK! Maybe we are the ones that are supposed to be that friend to them! The part that really hit home when I was listing to the sermon was that quality of our friends correlate to our circumstances in our life. There may be times where you have to eliminate people from your life. You don’t have to do this in a mean way. You just may need to take a break from them.
Think about the circumstances in your life and where it is going? Are you happy with them? Do you have the right friends in your life? Do you need to take a break from some of them? Or do you need to be one the friends that I listed above?